Appreciate you; appreciate them; exactly as it is. I appreciate everything you’ve shown me.
Notice (and adjust) how your actions and expressions affect both yourself and the other. I trust you and see light within you, not darkness. I want to be kinder than I need to be.
Attend to yourself; attend to the other. Presence. I am looking at you.
Accept thyself; accept the other, in their entirety, exactly as they chose to present themselves. I hear you.
Allow yourself to be yourself; allow the other to be. Don’t put people in (metaphorical) boxes. Kindness. Patience.
Acceptance of another (or yourself) means having an awareness of the truth. Allowance means putting that truth into action. Affection is general kindness towards everyone (sometimes, it means accepting/allowing romantic passion, or Eros).
You’ll notice, quite quickly, that these five things are not independent from eachother, but they weave together a tapestry of what we, in English, call “love”. Kindness.
There are six Greek words for what we call “love”:
Eros: romantic passion.
Philia: true friendship / companionship.
Ludus: playful love.
Agape: the love for God for all of mankind, made manifest.
Pragma: truly persistent (over time) love.
These, too, are all netted together into a web — each facet distinct, yet leading into another upon further inspection.
Reminder: The Fruit of the Spirit is: Love (agape), Joy (chara), Peace (eirene), Patience (makrothumia), Kindness (chrestotes), Goodness (agathosune), Faithfulness (pistis), Gentleness (prautes), and Self-Control (egkrateia).
I intend to commit these Five A’s to memory. I hope you find them as useful as I do — especially the A of Love of Acceptance.
This is such a powerful concept to me, and I find myself affirming “acceptance” on a regular basis. This trick has got me through some very difficult-to-navigate situations.